Shirley Caesar – HE’S WORKING IT OUT FOR YOU
Disappointment from grief loss and bereavement does not last always. Yet don’t expect every day following the death of a loved one to be like a breath of fresh air for a long time. Mourning time frames are different for everybody. Sadly, there are people who never get to a point of return to normalcy. Forgetting about losing someone you love is never an option because true love never dies, never becomes irrelevant or unnecessary. In the event of death, the loved one has for the deceased stays in their minds, though not constantly on the mind.
“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” Revelation 21: 24
You can try if you like to deny emotions manifested of grief, and embraced in love but I guarantee you will fail. Simply stated, one cannot suffocate sorrows, trials, and tribulations attributed to mortality. Contrary to popular belief, “nobody is immune to the sting of death or of pain brought on by grief loss and bereavement.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.“Matthew 5: 4
The Bible places great emphasis on the passage of life to death. Scripture tells us death must be acknowledged, celebrated, and in turn, will be grieved. Grief is a natural process. Most adults and children mourn someone or something at one time or another in life. Jesus knew this, so He made it so we find comfort in grieving by celebrating death, with the belief that all believers stand to participate in an afterlife with the Father.
“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” Revelation 21: 4
What can I say, disappointment is inevitable in life. No matter how much money you have, how popular you are, how loved you are, you are not immune. Therefore, it may be wise to appreciate, embrace and cherish facing obstacles as though they were stepping-stones. This way, when cloudy days come, and they will; you’ll still be filled with joy.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. John 3: 16
When clouds come they bring rain, gloom, even doom, and much disappointment for many. Yet, God says, “let not your heart be troubled.” Obviously, we are not to be afraid but brave, fully believing that the Lord will bring us out. “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27 (NIV)
During these times when episodes of grief prompted by a mismanaged pandemic, every believer is called to offer condolences to those ravaged personally, spiritually, emotionally, financially by this raging virus.
Because God is an all-knowing God, He knows when life is withholding the sunshine to usher in rain. The rain has a purpose. It is a spiritual cleansing mechanism, as are the tears we cry. Tears must be summoned by the heart. True tears of sorrow cannot be fudged together by ill-conceived desires. They come straight from the heart. The only One who can turn off tears of sorrow is the Lord and in due time. When the Lord is not part of the plan to dry up tears brought on by grief loss and bereavement, they keep crying inside.
like these present us with opportunities to do self-inventories, slow down; take time to smell the roses, while clipping away thorns. A thorn in the side is not only painful it causes a scar. Death is a thorn. All of us will have a thorn of one kind or another during this life.
The colliding of sunshine and darkness brings about a preempted imperfect storm that renders most emotionally defenseless. To be on top of the world one day and burying a loved one the next is heart-wrenching. But there is hope. God can change a raging storm into a perfect storm with the wave of his hand. Though on the surface, and initially we may not see or understand His plan, He will reveal a path to recovery if we trust him to do so.
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
I challenge you to look not at who you don’t have or at where they once occupied space in your life but to instead remember we are not our own. We belong to Jesus!
God gives us each other for a while, to love, protect, teach and guide. But, when He calls one of his home they must go. No matter how much we love the people we love, God loves them more. This means as hard as it is to believe they go to a better place, they do. For this reason, you need not beat yourself up over what you may not have said, did, or thought while they lived. You cannot unsay, say or do something for one who has gone home to be with the Lord. Why not use that energy to love on the living? I guarantee you, they need you more.
To get in touch with God when you lose a loved one pray! Ask God to comfort you in your time of sorrow. He can do it. I know what I am talking about. God is not only waiting, He wants you to come to him. Try reserving some quiet time just for Jesus. To connect with the Father we must give him our undivided attention, which makes it possible to come in close proximity with the Holy Spirit. Silence is key to receiving God’s Word.
You see, you can’t hear what’s being said when you’re talking and walking at the same time. Be still and be quiet if you really want to renew. Remember the Lord is a jealous God, He wants it all; as in our undivided attention. No TV, radio, stereo, I pad, computer, phone or people distractions. De-clutter your head and heart so the Father has space to come in!
Keep your Bible close, and your hands-free, ready to be used in any way God sees fit. Pray often, worship constantly, spread the Gospel of Christ every chance you get. Prayer not only changes things, but it is also the only way to communicate with the Master.
If your life is not like you envisioned it to be, after experiencing the loss of a loved one, turn the pain over to God. You deserve to once again feel happy, fruitful, joyous, and loved. Find out from God what your purpose in life is now that someone you loved with everything within is no longer the main focus of your life or a priceless fixture. If you do not know your purpose you do not know God’s plan for your life after the storm passes.
Renewal is in order, today! Not tomorrow, next week, or next year. It has to be this moment because this may be your last time to get it right. Sorrow is a state of mind but God’s love is made the mind it occupies. Therefore, God is able to wipe away the tears with one stroke. Trust and believe!
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18
SCRIPTURES ABOUT DISAPPOINTMENT
A Song of Ascents. I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. He will not let your foot be moved; he who keeps you will not slumber. Behold, he who keeps Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. The Lord is your keeper; the Lord is your shade on your right hand. Psalm 121:1 (ESV)
“Truly God is good to Israel, to those who are pure in heart. But as for me, my feet had almost stumbled, my steps had nearly slipped. For I was envious of the arrogant when I saw the prosperity of the wicked. For they have no pangs until death; their bodies are fat and sleek. They are not in trouble as others are; they are not stricken like the rest of mankind.” Psalm 73:1-28 (ESV)
Romans 8:28 ESV
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 (ESV)
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 (ESV)
Philippians 4:6-7 ESV
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 (ESV)
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3: 23-25 (ESV)
Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah: 40:28 (ESV)