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Loss of Romance
Loss of Romance

Losing someone you love is no cakewalk. For some, the experience is devastating. Not just because the person they depended on for companionship is gone, but more so because of all the departing take with them. Unless you have been in a long-term relationship, at least (2) or more years by today’s standards, you may struggle to comprehend the gists of this session. At any rate, don’t be discouraged. Love has no limitations, age preference, or gender. That said, young people do fall in love, and sometimes before relationships reach a 2-year expiration date. Love can be as strange as it is powerful. You cannot vividly describe it because it’s just too complicated. There is no way to dissect the plethora of and acquaintance of emotions one withstands over the course of romantic liaisons. Whether a relationship leads to marriage or not seems to have no bearing on the degree of heartache the abandoned one endures. Session ~ You can’t make somebody love you if they don’t; yet, losing somebody you love can be the greatest hurt the heart has ever known……

In 1994, the late great Nancy Wilson recorded Bonnie Raitt’s classic love song “I Can’t Make You Love Me.” As eloquently and riveting as any iconic songstress could, Nancy manages to lyrically reach into the hearts of her fans and snatch out every emotion connected to ever losing someone they loved. In short, Nancy smoothly schools listeners on how it feels to be on the wrong side of love. As the song goes, “Cause I can’t make you love me if you don’t!”
[You can’t make your heart feel something it won’t
Here in the dark, in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I’ll feel the power
But you won’t, no you won’t
‘Cause I can’t make you love me if you don’t” ]

The song talks about closing one’s eyes. Then they won’t see the love the one they love does not feel! Pretending something is not what it seems is common in times like these. We can blame it on love but charge the heart according to the pain, hurt, and rejection it dispenses when love is gone. Who among us has not heard those voices inside the head when the lights go out. “Here in the dark, in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I’ll feel the power
But you won’t, no you won’t…..” Nancy

The darkness refers to the lonely hours when the heart longs for comfort and strength to get through the night. Nighttime is not the right time to wrestle with losing soulmates. For some reason, the body lays down while the heart stays up. That’s a lot of power, a lot of love, and an unwelcome moment of truth. Nobody wants to be in love alone. Some question if it is even possible? But, if you’ve been there before, or even know of somebody who has, you also know it is possible to be in love all by yourself. Love was meant to be shared with another on all levels. Whether between mother and child, sister and brother, wife and husband or another, to survive, love must be reciprocated.

So you see how it is possible not to understand how losing someone you love differs from losing someone you are merely infatuated with. Infatuation fails to measure up to love because, according to Restorationstherapy.com (2019), “There is a huge difference between infatuation and being in love. Infatuation is when you first see someone that you are attracted to and immediately feel there is a connection based on that, whereas love is knowing the good and bad of someone and still loving them all the same.” Now, this is not news nor earth-shattering intelligence if you’ve ever been in love before and lost that love.

LyricsTurn down the lights
Turn down the bed
Turn down these voices inside my head
Lay down with me
Tell me no lies

In the end, the lies about love lose their power. Perhaps that is because God is Love, and God does not lie! If ever there was a time when the old saying “the truth will set you free was on point,” losing somebody you love who did not love you is one of them. Learning you can’t make somebody love you if they don’t is a powerful albeit painful lesson. To pick up the pieces and carry on accepting reality is imperative. In time, for most, the heartache subsides, allowing one to turn the page. Nevertheless, the power of rejection proves too much for some, resulting in long recovery periods. They still want to be held by the one who tugs at their heart…


Just hold me close, don’t patronize…

Here in the dark, in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I’ll feel the power
But you won’t, no you won’t
‘Cause I can’t make you love me if you don’t.

I’ll close my eyes, then I won’t see
The love you don’t feel when you’re holding me
Morning will come and I’ll do what’s right
Just give me till then to give up this fight
And I will give up… MoreSource: LyricFind

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