My condolences

Jesus wept! John 11:35 NIV

Why would the Lord want us to know Jesus wept? Could it be He wanted his children to see what the ultimate grief sorrow in life looks like?

The death of Jesus Christ is the greatest story ever told depicting loss of life and the ramafications of the end of one’s life. In fact, experiencing the death of someone you love is the greatest hurt most people will ever know. The fact that death is final, cannot be reversed and is inevitable speaks to the gravity of its power. Whatever one did not say to the deceased before death remains unsaid. Anything they wanted to do but failed to do stays undone. This very example remains high on the list of regrets of loved ones left behind. Perhaps the biggest regret of loved ones left behind in modern-day times is an inability to say goodbye due to COVID 19. These people need our condolences! It does not matter if you don’t know them personally. What matters is that you treat them like a person who lost the most valuable thing anybody could lose in life, which is another life.

Why You Should Give Condolences Whenever Possible?

Seeing God’s only son shed tears was a life long wake-up call for every Christian. Afterall, if the son of Almighty God could know sorrow, surely we should expect no less. To comprehend the relativeness of Jesus’ death one must be knowledgeable of why it had to be. You see, Jesus died for a reason.

His death of was part of a divine plan to save man from eternal damnation. Jesus died to atone for our sins, to resore the broken relationship with God. Christians learn important lessons from Jesus’ death. Perhaps the most important one is “we must have faith in God.” Yes, believing God will get ys through anything earth burden’s us with is an example of having faith.

Faith is believing something will happen with no evidence to suggest it will while behaving as though it already has.

Ministerneecy ~Dec 2020

Suffering and rejection is to be expected. God gave us empathy to employ in the wake of suffering or death of one of his children. Christians are charged to love one another as Christ loved them. Love is an action word. Seeing another’s heart broken should trigger an action, resembling compassion, empathy, and sympathy coupled with a desire to give the grieven condolences whenever possible or warranted. Desire is important because motives matter. Motives fuel the reasons for our actions.

Behind every motive is a reason and if that reason is not pure those actions are better left dormant.

Ministerneecy Dec 27, 2020

In the face of another’s sorrow we should respond as though our life depended on it. Extending genuine condolences matters because in times of sorrow people need authentic attention? If you cannot be sympathetic and real at the same time the task is not for you. Give it to somebody who cares.

This pandemic rendered many unable to give condolences or say goodbye to loved ones. We should not underestimate the longterm consequences of that predicament. Mental and emotional health issues will see a grave need for professional help on a wide scale. Whether social service and mental health professionals can or rise to the occassion remains to be seen. More likely than not most will self-medicate or wait for time to heal their wounds.

The face of the Lord is against those who do evil,

to cut off the memory of them from the earth.

 When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears

and delivers them out of all their troubles.

 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted

and saves the crushed in spirit.

 Many are the afflictions of the righteous,

but the Lord delivers him out of them all. Psalm 34: 16-19

Why You Should Give Condolences Whenever Possible?

When Jesus hung from the cross people from both sides (friend & foe) witnessed his pain. Yet not every body felt his pain. The significance of the gathering is defined by the reason for being there. There were both enemies and loved ones among the crowd. Some came for entertainment purposes while others came to be with the Savior during his cruxifiction or last hours on earth. God’s children did not want Jesus Christ to die alone. That said, the precedent to was established before the beginning of time.

We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord. 2 Corinthians 5: 8

Those who loved Jesus came because they understood the purpose of his sacrifice, pain, and death, and herefore felt compelled to respond accordingly afterward. Afterward, the people who loved Christ consoled those who lost Christ.

Condolences are designed to exhibit an expression of sympathy to those left behind to pick up the pieces of a heart shattered by grief. In the case of Jesus, by show of tears, the people expressed sympathy to his loved ones on the occassion of his eventual death. Based on obvious circumstances the people felt obligated to extend condolences to each other when Jesus died.

Is that too much to ask?

Who should you extend condolences too while you still can? Remember tomorrow is not promised…..

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